Woman Refuses to Allow Her Brother-in-law From Attending Her Wedding, Sisterly Dispute Arises

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    r/AITAH • 14 hr. ago bucketmaan AITA for not inviting my sister to my wedding because of her husband?
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    Hey everyone, I (29F) am getting married in a few months to my fiancé, Mark (31M). We're both very excited and have been planning this day for a long time. However, there's a significant issue that's causing a rift in my family.
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    My older sister, Sarah (34F), has been married to John (36M) for about five years. To put it bluntly, John is not a pleasant person. He's made several inappropriate comments at family gatherings, has a history of getting drunk and causing scenes, and has even been caught flirting with other women (including some of my friends). Despite this, Sarah insists
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    that he's a good guy at heart and that we should all be more understanding of his "quirks."
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    I've had multiple run-ins with John, and every time I've tried to address his behavior, it ends up in a huge argument. The last straw for me was when he got drunk at my engagement party and made a very inappropriate comment to one of Mark's sisters. Mark and I decided then that we didn't want John at our wedding.
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    I told Sarah about our decision and explained our reasons. I tried to be as gentle as possible, but she was furious. She accused me of tearing the family apart and said that if John isn't invited, she won't come either. My parents are also upset, saying that I'm being unreasonable and that I should just let it go for one day to keep the peace.
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    Mark supports my decision, but I'm starting to feel like maybe I'm overreacting. The wedding is supposed to be a happy day for us, and I don't want it overshadowed by drama. But at the same time, I don't want to lose my sister over this.
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    So, AITA for not inviting my sister's husband to my wedding?
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    KindlyCelebratio... • 13h ago NTA Ask your parents, who's peace? It won't be your peace with a loud obnoxious drunk present.
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    It won't the peace of the female friends and family member who will be sexually harassed or even assaulted at your wedding.
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    If your sister wants to enable her husband's behavior and present him with a room full of potential victims for him to torment, she can do it on her own dime.
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    If you parents are more concerned at making a man who publicly humiliates their own daughter and sexually harasses their family & friends feel comfortable and welcome, then they can stay home with him.
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    kazbrekkerismyl... • 13h ago nta he's been sexually harassing women and if your sister can't see his issues, then that's her problem it's your wedding, you get to decide who gets to go
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    Cursd818 12h ago ΝΤΑ Tell your parents very firmly that you are ensuring peace by keeping a man who sexually harasses women at every family event away from your wedding. Tell them that you are exceedingly disappointed in
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    them for trying to force you to welcome this terrible man into your event. You are the hosts. It's your responsibility to ensure that your guests are safe to enjoy themselves. John is not a safe man to have around, and that's that. If your sister wants to enable a
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    predator, that's her problem. It is NOT yours, and you will NOT make it your guests.
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    • Tishers 13h ago NTA Your BIL sounds like a real horses behind. If your sister elects to not attend because of her husband not being welcome that is on her. If she wants to take out her anger on someone let her
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    direct it to her own husband and his wildly inappropriate behaviors that is making them in to pariahs.
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    wizardofchange • 13h ago Keep the peace? There's no peace with a drunken fool around. NTA your sister needs to recognize that he's burning bridges.
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    access422 • 13h ago Nta - it's your wedding, he's causing distress and anxiety, no one needs that on your big day.

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